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Child Trafficking, Slavery and Domestic Infant Adoption

"Is it illegal for a parent to sell their child?" people sometimes ask. I guess with all the adoption agencies around selling "adoption services" designed to get babies for customers, these people think it must be OK for parents to cash in on the trade in human babies as well.

In some countries, poor families may have no legal protection and parents do often feel so pressured that they sell one child just to keep the rest of the family fed. The parents may be lured in by seemingly friendly "professionals" who tell them their child will be "better off". But once the child is out of reach of family, the kids may be used for sexual purposes, medically butchered and used as a source of organs for transplants, used as slaves or sold for adoption. Sometimes the "adoption" is a disguise and the child is actually being sold for slavery or as a sex slave. What better ploy to get a child for kiddie porn or even a "snuff" film? Once in the possession of "adoptive parents" it will be assumed a child is safe and no one checks up. Athough completely unrelated to the child they purchase (or otherwise acquire), "adoptive parents" have a reputation as being "loving couples" and "angels". To question this belief is considered some sort of blasphemy, as if the man-made construct of adoption itself were a god.

"Not all adoptions are like this," claim the infertile people waiting for babies. These infertile people want a baby to raise "as if" she was their own child, born to them. Some naive people today actually make babies on purpose to give as "gifts" to the infertile. Some of the recipients may later find it to be quite a surprise that the child they adopted is not at all "as if" born to them as they were promised. Regardless of whether the child seems "just like our own", there will be lot of pretending on the part of the adopters that the child has no other family, or that the adopting people are her "real" family. Many adopters like to diminish the importance of family or say the family of the child is just a bunch of "birth objects" anyway. Usually, there is NO mention of the grandparents, father or siblings. To deflect public attention from the existance of fathers and other relatives, adoption agencies usually speak only of the mothers. And they make it seem as though mothers are just "birthmothers" (birth objects) anyway. The adopted child (or adult adoptee) may say she is "better off" - but with limited and quite likely falsified information about her "birthmother" - unless she is reunited she may never know the truth, or even what it means to have a real family member.

Adoption and child trafficking. Many people say it's all "in the past" or goes on in some other country. It's not officially child trafficking if the child is adopted in the same country where she was removed from her naive or pressured family. But even when it's not child trafficking, and even if it is only a "mild" form of slavery - domestic infant adoption sure leaves mothers and other family members demolished and devastated.

 

 

 

 

 
 

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