Ethical Adoption Agencies, Reputable Adoption
Many people are aware of the horrendous suffering caused to children
and families when children are separated from living parents, grandparents
or siblings. Many people do look for true orphans and want to help
them. So the question is often asked: "Where do I find a reputable
or ethical adoption agency?"
That is an interesting question. Is adoption from foster care better
than infant adoption? Is infant adoption ethical in some cases?
Is adoption from other countries also taking advantage of people
or does it deprive children of the best situation for them, with
their own relatives, heritage, culture? We will explore the possiblities
in an effort to assist those who truly want to help someone.
Adopting from Foster Care
We have watched as children in United States are removed from parents
by child protective services (CPS) and (if they are cute and "adoptable")
there is no effort made to keep the child with family. "We
allow ample time for family members to come forward," is a
statement we sometimes hear, but it seems the family members better
understand how to navigate the system very well in advance and NOT
trust the social workers or anyone else involved in the "system".
When there are adoption bonuses, federal funding or quotas attached
to any action of a child protection system, there is less likelihood
that the interests of any individual child will be considered a
priority. Social workers who are in "sales" mode may
deceive the prospective adopters as well as the natural families.
When the foster care providers or the people adopting do not know
the child's true history or medical history, this can hardly be
in a child's interests - or anyone else's.
Adoption and Safe Families
Act Tears Family Apart - A mother's youngest "adoptable"
child is taken and her older children are not.
Bonuses - The Money Behind the Madness
Mothers-to-be are being told they will be "heros" if
they make their children available for the adoption market. They
are encouraged to "make an adoption plan" and even select
prospective adopters before their baby is born - before they have
a chance to hold their little one and look into her trusting eyes.
Father's parental rights are usually bypassed completely. People
who are infertile, gay or "just don't want to be bothered with
a pregnancy" insist they have a "right to adopt"
and they are looking for the perfectly healthy baby "of their
dreams". This is hardly like taking in a true orphan when living
family members are separated on purpose.
Adoption Awareness Training - Why It Must Be Ended
Choose Life License
Plates Are Misleading
Adoption Baby Boom - Exploiting Women and Families in America
Here is information on some specific "ethical"
adoption agencies. Of course this is a very short listing. What
agency do you suppose will not lie to moms and their families to
get babies for their true customers - and then lie to the customers
The following comparison provides some insight into
how laws might be changed to be more ethical:
Between Adoption Practices in Australia and North America
Adopting from a Foreign Country
Pay attention to news stories and you may discover some who quote
experts who are willing to reveal the truth - that children who
have lost family may be further tramatized by being forced to go
live with strangers in a foreign land.
European Parents Warned Against Adoption by Julio Godoy The
French government has ordered a six-month suspension of all adoptions
from the region. ”The better solution for the children is to be
cared for in their societies of origin,” said minister for health
and family Philippe Douste-Blazy.
There may be relatives or other people within their culture wanting
to care for a child. But when people come in with big piles of money
from other countries, then the interests of the individual child
may not be considered a priority. The child will be "sold"
to the person with the most money. Usually, the moneyed people go
for the most desirable child they can find. They exploit a situation
to get themselves a child, rather than finding the best way to help
as many as possible.
Box - What is wrong with inter-country adoption? What could
be improved so that more children benefit and in better ways?
In some countries, single mothers are being harvested of their
babies. They may be warehoused in maternity homes, and then pressured
to relinquish parental rights or have their infant sons and daughter
removed from them to be sold to people in other countries for adoption.
There is little or no effort made to fix the systemic issues, the
root causes of poverty or to prevent family separation.
Adopting From Korea
- Transracial Abductees Speak Out
Babies for Adoption Korea must stop overseas adoption Tobias
Hubinette, Korea Herald, Feb 28, 2005