DISEMBABYMENT: How Our Babies Were Taken For Adoption

"Adoption is not about unwanted children.
It is about unwanted mothers."

If you are like most people, you may believe that adoption begins with a mother wanting and choosing to GIVE AWAY her baby. This is what the adoption industry wants you to believe. And in most cases, NOTHING could be further from the truth. A Trackers International survey of 1000 natural mothers found that 97.7% were coerced into surrendering against their will.

We are women who WANTED to keep our babies. But because of factors such as being single, ill, young, and/or just vulnerable to family and agency pressures, our babies were taken from us by force, coecion, and lies.

Some of us were still drugged from childbirth when social workers or lawyers demanded our signatures. Others of us never signed - our own parents signed away our children. Others were told that we would not be allowed to see our babies until we signed the papers. Others were told we would be responsible for hospital bills of thousands of dollars unless we signed. Some of our babies were taken from us at birth, given to adopters, and then we were told to sign as it would not matter if we signed or not - it was a done-deal.

"An agency has a responsibility of pointing out to the unmarried mother the extreme difficulty, if not the impossibility, if she remains unmarried, of raising her child successfully in our culture without damage to the child and to herself .... The concept that the unmarried mother and her child constitute a family is to me unsupportable. There is no family in any real sense of the word."- Joseph H. Reid, "Principles, Values, and Assumptions Underlying Adoption Practice", 1956 NAT'L CON. SOC. WORK.

All of us were victims of fraud in that we were NEVER told the truth about the consequences of adoption to us or our babies - in fact, we were deliberately lied to.

Our children were taken from us so the adoption industry make money, playing the role of savior to infertile couples by selling the "ultimate gift" to them at our expense, and then come out smelling like a rose for solving society's supposed welfare and moral problems. It all really came down to money ... keeping us off the welfare rolls and making money for the brokers.

Are you a natural mother and would like to tell your personal story of losing your child to adoption?  Email it to us at beba_online@ yahoo.com.  Stories from adopted persons are also welcome.

" I brought him home with the hope that my parents would change their mind.  But they didn't.  My father and my uncle made all the arrangements for the adoption behind my back, then they told me about it two days before it was to take place. ... They drove me to Fairfax, VA to an attorney's office to sign papers, and give my son to the attorney for the adopters.  The worst thing I remember is of course putting my son in that man's arms and saying good-bye and feeling my heart get ripped out from beneath my breast.  I felt nauseous and my legs got weak. But the other thing I remember is the way the attorney treated me.  He had no compassion.  He was so condescending.  I asked for a copy of what I signed and he just laughed  at me.  I can still see his face."

His date of birth is 7/17/74.  I am searching for him.  If anyone can help me, please email me at Patrulideb@aol.com. - Deborah

". . . babies born out of wedlock [are] no longer considered a social problem . . . white, physically healthy babies are considered by many to be a social boon . . . " (i.e. a valuable commodity..). - Social Work and Social Problems (1964), National Association of Social Workers.