Is Infant Adoption really a "Christian"
thing to do?
by Mary Andrews
Are you single and pregnant, looking for an adoption agency?
I've been noticing that many domestic infant adoption agencies
have the word "Christian" in their names or else they are associated
with a Christian church social services. This certainly gives
a lot of people a feeling of trust that these agencies are doing
God's work.
Is the transfer of children from their own naive or vulnerable
parents and grandparents to unrelated infertile people really
something that God wants people to do?
What does the Bible say about adoption?
"THE WICKED SNATCH FATHERLESS CHILDREN
FROM THEIR MOTHER'S BREASTS, AND TAKE A POOR MAN'S
BABY AS A PLEDGE BEFORE THEY WILL LOAN HIM ANY MONEY
OR GRAIN" --Job 24:9--
"By Faith, Moses Refused To Be
Called Son of The Pharaoh's Daughter." - Hebrews:
11:24
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I am a mother who has lost her infant son to adoption. Imagine
how horrified I was when I learned the truth - babies who are
separated from their mothers in infancy lose trust in those around
them. To them it seems that their own mother apparently "abandoned"
them - so they fear that others they love might abandon them too.
Adoption removes a child from her own family - and removes all
the ancestors from a child. Adoption is pure magic - of the "smoke
and mirrors" variety. A fraudulently amended birth certificate
is issued to make it appear that the child is the real offspring
of the people who adopted him - to make it seem as if the adopters
have achieved their dream of being "real parents".
The rationalizations for infant adoption change over time and
to keep up with the market for babies. At one point people were
"saving" babies from being known as "bastards".
They claimed it was in the mother's "best interests"
to be "saved" from being known as whores, and returned
to a "virginal" state so they could marry. No doubt
it was in the "Christian" father's best interests to
be able to skate away free of responsiblity for his child - especially
if he had plans to be in politics.
Eventually people decided not to refer to children as "illegitimate"
or "bastards". Many more single mothers began keeping
their children. More fathers began to take responsiblity for their
children, whether they were married to their children's mothers
or not.
But then more people began delaying childbearing in favor of
their careers - delaying so long that by the time they "tried"
they found themselves infertile. There was a growing market for
babies for adoption. Single people and gay people began adopting,
not just infertile couples. The rationale for removing single
mother's healthy infants changed: People began to say that single
parents are OK, but babies MUST live with wealthy people, with
people who are "mature" - or even elderly. And
even more scary, moms were told they would be "heros"
and "saints" for making their babies available for adoption.
Is 17 too young to raise a baby? It's a lot of work to raise
a child - but it's worse to wonder every day of your life how
your child is doing. It's far worse to discover later that
your child felt horribly abandoned.
Is infant adoption a "Christian" thing to do?
Mary the mother of Jesus was a teenage, less affluent
"unwed" mother. God chose HER to be Jesus' mother,
not some wealthy adoptress - not even in so-called "open"
adoption.
