Baby Brokers come in all sorts and shapes - some call themselves
lawyers, others private practitioners and others just plain social
workers. The facts about them are quite simply that they sell
children to strangers for a living.
Baby
Brokers are hired by desperate infertile couples to hunt down
other women's children. It is no secret that the vast majority
of them are adopters themselves. Though brokers will adamantly
deny that they choose sides in adoption they clearly do. There
mission is to find a child to suit the needs of adopters, and
not to actually do anything on behalf of the child other then
make them the patsies for someone else's pain.
Infertile
couples - though they may well have a number of grief and loss
issues - do not have the right to claim nor hunt down anyone's
child. Though I am quite sure being infertile is a terrible loss
it DOES NOT EQUATE with the loss of a child from their entire
family. And if society wants to have empathy for these folks then
why in the name of God would we encourage them to rob someone
else of their child. They are merely transferring their problems
to someone else. I also do not think that infertility compares
to the horrific and life-long loss for adoptees and their natural
parents. Baby brokers are known for denying this. The only
person that counts are adopters - not the parents and certainly
not the innocent babies sacrificed to cure the pain of strangers!
In
addition women do not and should not exist to be breeders for
other people. Nor should they be exploited or coerced to provide
their flesh and blood to ease the pain of strangers. Baby Brokers
are infamous for encouraging and shaming women into believing
the fate of someone else rests on their shoulders. This is a LIE
and it does not whatsoever.
Women
who are pregnant do not owe anyone anything much let alone a desperate
infertile couple. They are not responsible to fix or cure infertility
any more then we who have been the survivors of adoption are.
Adoptees have been the patsies and sacrificial lambs for years.
We have been adopted to be the replacements for the children never
born, for dead children, lost children and to fix another persons
problems. The very heart of adoption is codependent as we must
sacrifice our souls, our names and our identities to please the
lives of strangers.
Many
will argue of stories of natural families abusing their children.
While there is clearly a need for child protection adoption is
by far not an answer. While most people will use this as a blanket
argument to promote adoption the truth is that abuse in adoptive
homes is absolutely rampant. At least 25% of the adoptees that
I have worked with were abused by their adopters. This includes
sexual, physical and emotional abuse. Moreover, the majority of
mothers who lost their children to adoption were not and are not
abusers with most being excellent mothers to children that they
had after the loss.
The
widespread ignorance and labeling of natural mothers is a disgrace
as most were deemed as being unfit based on nothing intelligent
at all - just the sweeping powers of oppression by misguided social
agencies and government henchmen. A great social cleansing that
swept across North America where strangers were deemed as being
fit as they were married and anyone not fitting into the oppressive
government realm an outcast. It is no wonder why so many of us
were abused.
The
issue of abuse is rarely discussed though as the so called "home
study" is supposed to screen and protect adopted persons from
predatory people like pedophiles and other sociopaths. The system
has clearly and evidently failed. What is particularly scary is
that while public home studies have failed miserably the goals
and objectives in private adoptions are only ever one sided. They
are for the adopters. Moreover the objective of the broker
is to get paid - does it really matter by whom? I seriously doubt
that it does. Where money is the first priority children are bound
to lose.
This
is why we have horrifying episodes like the darling babies sold
on the Internet. That story broke my heart seeing those innocent
babies being exploited. The media wanted to crucify the broker
but the broker was by far not the only culprit. What type of person
would buy children to start with is the greater question - and
why are governments allowing the sale of children to start with?
Private
adoptions are a disgrace to me and a glorified word for kidnapping
and selling infants. It is my hope that they are outlawed one
day.
Copyright
© 2001 Anne Patterson. Anne is a author, adopted person,
and licensed private investigator with 11 years' experience and
95.4% success rate in reuniting families separated by the adoption
industry. Visit her website at www3.sympatico.ca/searches
